Contact your pastor and the pastor of the parish where you intend to marry. Normal circumstances state that you should prepare where you and your fiancé live rather than where you will be married. If you are getting married outside of the United States, allow at least two months after finishing preparation and before the wedding to allow for the proper transfer of your marriage file.
Canon law ordinarily requires baptized Roman Catholics to marry before a priest or deacon. Unless they received a “dispensation from canonical form,” Catholics who exchange vows in the presence of ministers from other religious traditions or civil officials are not considered validly married in the eyes of the Catholic Church. Regardless of what happened in the past, the Catholic Church invites you to bring new meaning to your lives by embracing the vocation of marriage and dedicating your family’s mission to sharing God’s love. In most cases, preparation for convalidation is very similar to the marriage preparation process. Read More
If either party has been married before, whether in the Catholic Church or by any other civil or religious authority, you will need to obtain an annulment before beginning marriage preparation. This is for both Catholic and non-Catholic parties. For more information, please contact your parish and ask to speak to their marriage preparation coordinator or nullity minister.
Only one party is required to be a baptized Catholic in order to marry in the Catholic Church. The Catholic party must agree to do everything in his or her power to practice the faith and baptize and raise any children in the faith, and the non-Catholic party must assent to this as well.
If you are unable to make a class, you can reschedule with no penalty up to two weeks before the class. If you need to reschedule or cancel a class within two weeks of the class date, you will be charged a $25 reschedule fee. Please call the Marriage Office at (602) 354-2122 to reschedule.
We encourage you to make the classes a priority in the nine months of your marriage prep. If you cannot rearrange your schedule to attend the two Saturdays in the nine month time period, check with your parish to see if they offer evening classes to satisfy the Married Life Skills course. You can also call the Marriage Office to find an alternative option.
The Diocese of Phoenix currently requires a minimum of nine months of preparation for the Sacrament of Matrimony. We encourage you to consider beginning the process a year or more before your anticipated wedding date.
The first step is to set up a meeting with your local parish. While the preparation for the Diocese of Phoenix is universal, the requirements for a wedding at a specific parish is unique to each parish.
A: You are asking a question that more and more couples find confusing. It is a good question and I am glad that you are seeking an answer. Of course, this can be a very sensitive issue. Many brides (and grooms!) have dreamt of their wedding day for years. To then have the Church say “no” to any of your plans can feel like it is coming from out of nowhere. It can feel like the Church imposing some arbitrary rule on your big day. I’ve known individuals who have actually used this issue as a reason to leave the Church, and so I hope that this response will help anyone who has been confused and hurt by this teaching. Read More
Fr. Mike Schmitz explains why a Christian marriage has to be in a church. With the marriage vows we aren’t just committing ourselves to our spouse. We are also saying in a very specific way that we will follow Christ. Marriage is inherently connected to Christianity, and it’s not just about us.
NFP is an effective, scientifically based method of family planning that treats fertility as a normal, healthy process. Based upon observations of changes in the woman’s body that reliably reflect her fertility or infertility, the couple using NFP interprets this information and then either abstains from or engages in marital relations during the fertile time, depending upon their family planning intention.
Biological reasons, such as one’s health and concern about the side effects of artificial methods, including sterilization. Many couples don’t want to take the risk of harmful side effects just to make sex convenient. Some have started on Depo-Provera to simplify their lives, but gain weight or suffer depression. Others decide that they just want to be hormone-free, buying or growing vegetables that are chemical free and realizing that they have the same concern for their own body’s ecology. Many find that NFP is a better way for them.
Psychological reasons, such as the positive interaction that can occur as the couple manages family planning together. One “side effect” is that 70 percent of NFP couples who were surveyed indicated that the practice of NFP increased their communication level. One husband relates:
“I never thought that after twenty years of marriage that I would ever feel the intensity of desire for my wife I felt when we were first married. Yes, we still loved each other, but there was something missing. I just chalked it up to being older, having kids, being together for twenty years. Something amazing happened when we learned NFP – the abstinence brought back the freshness, the anticipation, we had enjoyed when we were first married.
We were using a barrier method of family planning before NFP, but I hated suiting up for sex. It seemed wrong to establish a barrier from the person you were to be as intimate as possible with – it contradicted the unity of the act. NFP is so much more spontaneous and congruent with what sex means in a committed, loving relationship.”
Moral and ethical reasons, such as the recognition that some forms of contraception actually interfere with the implantation process after conception has taken place. These methods may act as abortifacients. In the words of one husband: “I had heard that hormonal contraceptives can cause really early abortions by preventing implantation, so I asked my doctor about it. She said that this isn’t true. However, the more I read, the more it seemed that there really is the possibility that this is true. I’m not willing to take that chance and I also think it is an injustice for me, as a man, to ask my wife to negate her biology just so she can be sexually available without concern for pregnancy. Justice requires that we both share in the responsibility for family planning. NFP fulfilled this for us.”
Philosophical and religious reasons, such as faithfulness to one’s religious beliefs and an understanding of sexuality as comprised of a unitive and procreative dimension – inseparable parts of a whole. NFP allows the couple to respect this part of who they are and to practice responsible parenthood.
NFP helped me appreciate the cycle of life. It makes me very thankful that there is a God who has made this – how wonderfully it all works together. As Psalm 139 says, we are fearfully and wonderfully made! I feel good about NFP because it allows me to live congruently with Catholic teaching. I’m not putting an obstacle between myself and my relationship with God, and my relationship with God has gotten closer.
There are a number of devices and hormonal tests that are marketed with FDA approval for identifying the fertile time of the cycle. To date, none of them have been FDA approved to help avoid pregnancy. Such approval expects a high standard of technological effectiveness to identifying fertility and infertility. Right now, learning the method through classes is the most effective way to practice NFP. Some women find the devices reinforce what they have learned in classes, providing them with more confidence while learning. Performance of Fertility Awareness-Based Method Apps
Modern methods of NFP have been shown to be highly effective with method effectiveness figures ranging from 97-99.9 percent. Use effectiveness, reflecting the actual experience in day-to-day life, shows 90-99 percent effectiveness. To achieve these effectiveness figures, it is important that couples participate in a structured learning program with individualized follow-up, that they chart consistently and correctly, and that they follow all rules, especially complete genital abstinence during the method-defined fertile time.
In a five country trial, the WHO found that “marital friction” as a result of periodic abstinence was uncommon in 80-99 percent of cycles according to both men and women. In this same study, over 95 percent of both men and women rated their satisfaction with NFP as good or excellent. Couples using NFP report increased and enhanced communication, increased self-esteem, and enhanced spirituality.
Because each woman’s cycling pattern is just a little different, and each cycle is unique, there is no hard and fast rule about the amount of abstinence. For a woman who has typical cycling, the average number of days of fertility is about 9-12, at least for beginners. It is important to keep in mind that studies have consistently shown that couples using NFP to plan their family have as many (or more!) acts of marital relations during a cycle as other couples, it is just distributed differently.
The basics aren’t hard. Most people master them fairly quickly and easily. Since most of the observations can be done during a woman’s daily personal care, it takes very little time. The challenge in using NFP can be integrating NFP into the couple’s lifestyle and adjusting to the periodic abstinence required if postponing pregnancy.
Learning NFP may be done in a class situation, one-to-one instruction, or through an online course. Whatever format is utilized, instruction may consist of a presentation, learning activities, and personalized follow-up with chart review. Simply reading a book, or even attending a class without personal attention, is not adequate.
In follow-up, the NFP Provider reviews the client’s chart for correct and consistent charting and interpretation. There is a dialogue about how the observations are being made and the correct understanding of definitions and rules are clarified. It is also an opportunity for the client to ask questions, receive information appropriate for the specific cycling pattern being experienced, and be encouraged and supported in the practice of NFP.
The observations themselves can be learned fairly quickly. In one World Health Organization (WHO) study, 97 percent of women were able to identify the cervical mucus changes in the first cycle. Most people are familiar with taking a temperature reading and find it takes just a little effort to establish a habit of taking it upon waking. However, each woman’s situation and cycling pattern is unique, so personal attention is a very important component of instruction. This may take place face-to-face, over the phone, or in email correspondence. It is critical for a couple to learn from a certified NFP Provider.
Yes. Some NFP systems utilize just the cervical mucus observation. Others include an awareness of vaginal sensations. The Sympto-Thermal Method incorporates observation of the cervical mucus, vaginal sensations, changes in the cervix itself, as well as the woman’s waking temperature.
Depending on the method of NFP used, couples using NFP may observe natural biomarker changes in the woman’s cervical mucus, vaginal sensations, changes in the cervix itself as well as changes in her waking temperature.
If you don’t feel confident of your mucus observation, give greater weight to the temperature observation. This is a perfect time to apply a temperature-only rule to determine the post-ovulatory infertile time.
You should do the tissue exam every time you go to the bathroom – both before and after urinating or having a bowel movement. Bear down, as if trying to force mucus down, before the last tissue exam of the day.
As long as you have one hour uninterrupted sleep prior to taking your temperature, you should get a usable reading. Light activity such as getting up briefly to care for a child or to go to the bathroom should not affect the temperature reading. However, if you are up repeatedly for extended periods of time, you may find that your reading is disturbed. Just make a note of it on your chart.
Take your temperature anyway, chart it, and make a note of the disturbance.
Some women think that “regular” means having a 28-Day cycle. A typical cycle range is 23-40 days, so a week variation in one’s cycle is considered typical. Even women who do not have “regular” cycles can use NFP. In all cases, it is important to learn from a certified NFP Provider.
The tympanic or ear thermometers are not accurate enough to be used for NFP.
If you are using a digital thermometer, the recommendation is that you take your temperature a minute beyond the beep indicating that an initial reading has been reached. This enhances the accuracy so necessary for NFP.
For women who regularly wake up later than 7:30 a.m. or have jobs with irregular hours, they can take their temperature when they wake up. Generally, they would give more emphasis to the cervical mucus signs and clarify with one’s NFP Provider first.
For those using the Sympto-Thermal Method of NFP, it is important to get a usable temperature pattern and so it is very important to take your temperature pattern at roughly the same time each day while you are trying to establish infertility. You can take it up to 45 minutes before or after your usual time without considering the temperature disturbed, provided all temperatures are taken before 7:30 a.m. Once you are in the post-ovulatory infertile time, you can relax regarding this point.
To really learn NFP, it is best for you to discontinue your use of contraception. While you may be able to learn the method in a theoretical sense, an important piece of learning NFP is to apply the information to your own cycles. While it may get you in the habit of observing and charting, any charting you do while using hormonal contraception will reflect those hormones and not your own cycling pattern.
It depends on the type of hormonal contraception you were using and your individualized response to it. Those discontinuing a hormonal IUD or birth control pills have a quicker return to typical cycling than someone discontinuing injectable contraception or implants. No matter how long it takes for cycling to return, NFP can be used confidently. It is important to work with a certified NFP Provider for feedback during this time.
During this time of life, cycles may become more irregular – both shorter and longer. Because of this it is important to consider the days of menstruation to be possibly fertile. If a short cycle occurs, the cervical mucus flow may begin during the heavy flow days and be masked by the bleeding. Beyond that, it is important that there be good, consistent charting. Both the cervical mucus sign and temperature pattern provide valuable information about the fertile and infertile times. We offer free NFP During Menopause Refresher Classes for couples in this time of their reproductive lives.
Just as at other times, it is important to chart while breastfeeding, even if cycling is delayed for many months. Ovulation can precede your first bleeding, and you will need to make observations as well as chart and interpret them to know when you become fertile. Because ovulation may not occur for many months, the cervical mucus observation is the focus during this time. However, it is recommended, for Sympto-Thermal users, that the temperature observation be made as well. It is important to work with a certified NFP Provider for feedback during this time.
The return of fertility after giving birth depends upon whether or not a woman is breastfeeding and how she is breastfeeding. It also depends upon the individual woman since there is a wide range of when fertility returns. The best thing to do in this circumstance is to consult with an NFP Provider for specific recommendations for your cycling pattern based upon your charting and to take a free NFP While Breastfeeding Refresher Class.
A great benefit of NFP is the same information couples use to avoid a pregnancy, can help them know the best time to achieve a pregnancy. It also provides for very early identification of pregnancy and the information to set a correct due date. NFP chart information helps identify fertility problems and the best times in the cycle for a doctor to administer fertility tests.
NFP works no matter what the woman’s cycling pattern. It can be used with long or short cycles, when discontinuing hormonal contraception, as well as during breastfeeding and pre-menopause. While Calendar Rhythm required regular cycles because it was based upon a woman’s cycling history, modern NFP methods are based upon day-to-day observations with decisions about fertility based upon those observations.
It’s not Calendar Rhythm which gave only a guesstimate of fertile times. Modern methods of NFP are based on daily observations so any variation (earlier signs of fertility or delay in fertility) may be taken into account. It can be used after childbirth and discontinuing hormonal contraceptives and during premenopause.
While we find that the vast majority of couples are very pleased with their online learning experience (which is of particular benefit to those who are unable to take the course from the same location), it is important to recognize that learning styles and social preferences play an important role in having the best possible experience. Couples who, over the course of high school and/or college, have realized they struggle with online learning platforms, may have a better experience seeking out an in-person course.
While some couples do prefer the relational aspects of sitting down with their instructor in-person, many students actually seem to feel more comfortable with the online learning platform and the option of digital communication. Our instructors who teach both online as well as in-person, notice that their online clients are generally more honest and open with aspects of both their chart and their medical or relationship history, that in-person clients might find embarrassing or uncomfortable to discuss. This openness is essential to the learning process when teaching a couple how to use NFP effectively given their own unique circumstance.
Couples learning SymptoPro online closely mimic the in-person learning experience. Our course is split into 3 sessions spaced several weeks apart, including personalized follow-up and chart reviews with their assigned instructor at the end of each session. Their instructor is available to them at any point along the way and actively works with them to verify their personal knowledge and understanding of course materials. The main difference, is that couples who learn online are able to work through the course materials on their own time, in the comfort of their own homes and even when living a great distance apart. In addition, online instructors are available for phone calls or skype sessions.